Your morning cup of joe with Pastor Joe: September 11, 2018

Your morning cup of joe with Pastor Joe: September 11, 2018

Join Pastor Joe each morning for a time of devotions. Today we start week four in the New Testament book of Ephesians. We are looking at Ephesians 2:11-22. Today we look at verses 14-15 where we see Jesus death on the cross destroys the walls that separate us.. Grab a coffee and your Bible and let's dig in!

Your morning cup of joe with Pastor Joe: August 23rd, 2018

Your morning cup of joe with Pastor Joe: August 23rd, 2018

Join Pastor Joe each morning for a time of devotions. Take the thirty day challenge of joining us each morning for thirty days of devotions and see how it changes you and your life. This morning in our devotions in Ephesians we look at verses 8-10. So, grab a cup of coffee and your Bible and let's dig in.

Bringing Unity in Marriage

Today's Devotional Thought:

Philippians 2:3-4, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."

New York Times columnist David Brooks argues that there are three different lenses through which to think about marriage decisions—the psychological, the romantic, and the moral lens.

Most of the popular advice books adopt a psychological lens. These books start with the premise that getting married is a daunting prospect. So psychologists urge us to pay attention to traits like "agreeableness," social harmony, empathy, and niceness.

The second lens is the romantic lens. This is the dominant lens in movie and song. More than people in many other countries, Americans want to marry the person they are passionately in love with. But in their book "The Good Marriage," Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee concluded that 15 percent of couples maintain these kinds of lifelong romantic marriages.

The third lens is the moral lens. In this lens a marriage exists to serve some higher purpose. Brooks points to Tim Keller's book "The Meaning of Marriage," where Keller argues that marriage introduces you to yourself; you realize you're not as noble and easy to live with as you thought when alone. Brooks writes:

In a good marriage you identify your own selfishness and see it as the fundamental problem. You treat it more seriously than your spouse's selfishness. The everyday tasks of marriage are opportunities to cultivate a more selfless love. Everyday there's a chance to inspire and encourage your partner to become his or her best self. In this lens, marriage isn't about two individuals trying to satisfy their own needs; it's a partnership of mutual self-giving for the purpose of moral growth and to make their corner of the world a little better. [Adapted from David Brooks, "Three Views of Marriage," The New York Times (2-13-16)]

Paul asks the Philippian Church to look through the moral lens at their relationships. There was disunity in the Church. There was grumbling and arguing (Philippians 2:14). There was quarrels and fights (Philippians 4:2). The problem, as Paul saw it, was pride or self-centeredness. The cure, the thing that could bring unity, and can bring unity in our marriages as well, is humility or other-centeredness.

Have you found disunity in your marriage? The answer is to value your spouse above yourself and consider their needs above your own. Any marriage in which both partners look through this moral lens will find joyous unity and healing. The end result will be a marriage that will stand the test of time.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, we often struggle to put others above ourselves. You ask us to bear a cross of self denial. Help us in this daily difficult task. Bless our relationships. Bless our marriages. Bring us unity and let it bring You glory. In Jesus, amen.